Honda,When I try to take my lug nuts off my aftermarket rims, i end up scraping the rims,what size lug do i need so i wont do this again

My rims are 17 inch rims (17×7"/5×114.3mm) and do i need a different tool instead? I also have my tires scraping the inside a tiny bit when i turn hard inward and dont know if i need a wheel spacer or something else?

My car has 92172 miles.
My car has an automatic transmission.